How Flower Essences Influenced My Ancestral Healing Journey

I haven't shared this story publicly before. In fact, most of those closest to me don't know the depths of my story around family and heartbreak. I want to share with you that I often feel alone and deep grief, especially at this time of year as we inch closer to holidays focused around togetherness and family gatherings. I have a family who I am estranged from. Since I was 21 this has been a part of me that I have always felt ashamed of, that I wanted to hide from, that I hoped was something that I know it could never be.


All kinds of stories about how I could've done things better or been better to receive that love and acceptance from my family. The truth is, this really has nothing to do with me. I believe on one level that I can love my family from afar (and I very much do) AND any pain, sadness, or unlovable-ness is here to lift me up or bring me into my depths to learn from AND that this is so interrelated to what I'm here on Earth to discover and support other Folx with. And it's doing all of these things, wonderfully!


Through all of this, I found my Priestess Path and with it, the Earth, my true Mother, the Cosmic Womb of true nourishment and unconditional love. Showing me the blessings of a mother / daughter relationship (available to us all) in unconditional Grace and Compassion. And the Cosmos, the All There Is, my true Father has supported me and held me in those dark nights where I didn't know the why to it all and nevertheless keeps guiding me on my path. 


This time of year in the Celtic tradition is called Samhain. From October 31st until November 7th we are held in a Portal of death where the Veils are Thin and we can see, hear, and experience the messages of our ancestors, guides and well spirits.

It's a time for us to surrender to our own 'death' not of physicality, but of what in our life needs to end, what needs to be lovingly put to rest.


Being a person who feels so fully in my heart, this pain on some level I carry around with me, I recognize this as a time of year I feel really comfortable in. I like the Dark. I know what to do with the Power of my Emotive Self. I realize this isn't comfortable for everyone, it doesn't feel safe, it can feel challenging and scary. 


Being misunderstood,
feeling like the black sheep,
not being seen,
having boundaries crossed again and again,
being abandoned,
is all part of my experience.


Of course, there is more, as we all hold many stories about the pain that we hold for a lineage. I'd been working through these feelings of living on a seesaw of so many ups and downs of 'do they / don't they' love me for about 10 years and then I found an angel on earth who shared Flower Essences with me. From there it's been a really incredible journey back to my wholeness, back to my truth and a re-membrance of who I am on all mystical and practical levels.


As I write this, I feel Morgan of Avalon and Lilith with me. The Guardians of the Dark who I've worked with for years, channeling their support and mentoring with them as I look fiercely at my Shadow. The crows are crowing outside my window. My ancestors are near, I who hold their DNA and stories passed down for me to heal and process and lay down to be buried in the Earth's soils for transmutation.And this is me, a part of my story and one facet of who I am.


This is why Flower Essences mean so much to me. They have been my support team, they have helped me to process and heal deep emotional wounds (and will always continue to). Essences can clear, nourish, and move stuck 'stuff' that we are holding onto (known and unknown). They can mend a broken heart. They can create a cocoon of protection if you have trouble with boundaries. They can help you feel more confident, or to shine more in areas of your life where you tend to be passed over. You can begin to manifest and create wonderful experiences for your life. You can heal relationships, build a business, hex the Patriarchy with the help of Essences.


It is all possible when we partner with the Earth. I welcome you to take a look at the FLOWER COVEN and join us in November for our month with Lilith as we work with flower essences to discover the multi-layers of our Personal Power. Registration for this month will close November 6th and your essences will go out to you that day! Along with your essences in the mail, you'll receive a curated program of activities and information to guide and delight you.

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ABOUT THE FLOWER COVEN


A Monthly Flower Essence Membership where you will be mailed one flower essence formula each month. I will give you specific support and guidance on how to use your essences to work through our group theme for November of Personal Power.


You'll also receive a crafted curriculum of journal prompts, rituals, meditation suggestions, channeled messages, and other goodies that are created to be used as a way to honor your magick, and support you deeply in creating time for your self-care.


Although this has been birthed as a 13 Moon Experience you can come and go each month as you please, no commitment at all to do the full 13 months!


Reply to this email and let me know if you have questions, I'd love to have you as a member of our group of amazing FLOWER COVEN friends!!


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Flower Essences for Transitions or, When Fear gets the best of us

I had a powerful experience this week around the stories we play over in our heads, the truth behind them and how we can look at our fear straight in the eye.


What's the story you are re-telling in your head or that you repeat over and over without thinking about it. Something you're comfortable with accepting but might no longer actually be true? Mine was a 2-for-1, I need clarity in order to move forward but I don't know where I'm going. I want to know, when am I going to have clear guidance on what to do. But what if the path we are on is the path? It is the lesson. It already is the growth point. 


I heard the critic in my head telling me, all the things about why I can't have what I want. I didn't try to fix it. I listened to that inner voice, I let it do cartwheels all over me until I heard all it had to say. All the ways I don't feel good enough, all the reasons I don't think I can have what I truly want, all the fears and frustrations, all the sadness, the very real panic and anxiety, and the ways I've felt hurt and betrayed.


I gave these stories my full attention and when the script was complete I thought about all she had to say. These were some really valid points. I am scared to offer my voice to the world. I am worried about things I can't control. I do care so freaking much about the people in my life so much so I do put other people above my own needs at times. It does feel difficult to live in a womxn's body and mxneuver through society. It does feel awkward to stand up and set boundaries. And also, I am worth thatAnd you are worth that. We are worth the working on ourselves in the ways that work for us emotionally, physically, economically. We are worth that.


So I sat with this entitled, spoiled, privileged voice in my head and I listened and witnessed her. I came to her, and I let that need to control leave my body. When we are feeling out of control, the instinct is to fix it, but the helpful thing is to witness without trying to change or force.


If you've been having a hard time untangling yourself from any stories that don't fit you anymore, stories that may feel difficult or that are holding you back. I'd like to offer a few journal prompts and flower essences to support you.


I have so much more to say about our stories and how we can use them to learn and grow from rather than as a constant place of disempowerment and pain. Our stories are a big part of who we are but they don't have to be all that we are. Our stories deserve to be voiced and heard, and also listened to and witnessed. I hope this is a safe starting point for you. 
 


Journal Prompts to Support You toward your own Inner Clarity...

What's the full story that I'm taking on as truth? And how can I begin to unwind myself from this?
Where am I not taking responsibility? Or, where am I taking over-responsibility for something that isn't mine to own? 
What am I feeling in my body (fear, anxiety, sadness, guilt)? And where is it showing up in my body?
What's one thing I can do today to experience a small shift in the power struggle (control) over this situation?
What new story can I begin to speak that feels more freeing, more kind, more compassionate?



3 Flower Essences to Support you in Times of Transition & Fear

Mariposa Lily flower essence for self-mothering, and soothing feelings of not being enough. She can help you find freedom and open you to kindness toward your self. 

One of my favorites for fear is Mimulus flower essence. You can take this essence anytime you are experiencing any specific fear or anxiety. A great helper to ease and support you. 

And Stinging Nettle flower essence for those times when you need to come out of the mists and back into your life. I've found this essence shows me the places where I might have unhealthy relationships or addictions (scrolling on insta anyone...) and guide toward more beneficial responses.


If you'd like a custom flower essence formula and consultation. I'd be honored to support you! May we all feel witnessed. May we all experience peace. And so it is.


And... if you feel you'd like more support, I'd love to work with you 1-1. You can schedule a free session here to see if we'd be a good fit. I'd love to meet you!


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Working with Flowers as Pendulums

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Take a walk in a special place that feels safe and yummy (or just a regular old walk in the neighborhood or back yard)

Take a minute to soften. Feel your body. Breathe deep and feel all that’s present for you. I like to close my eyes and stretch up toward the sun while feeling my feet in the grass. (It feels so good!)

Then set your intention to link with nature around you. Ask a question just like you would an oracle deck. And be open to receiving your message. 

You might feel an immediate shift in the wind or hear the birds chirping or almost trip on a hidden fallen branch...

Then just continue on your walk and notice how the flowers, plants, trees and animals are greeting you. How are they interacting with you? What plants catch your attention? What colors draw you in? Can you catch their whispers?

One of favorite ways to play with flowers once I spot one I’m drawn to, is to greet the flower with a smile and curiosity. I’ll introduce myself and in my heart ask permission to connect. Once I’ve heard a yes, I’ll ask a question and allow the flower and the breeze to dance like a pendulum in the wind. 

There are so many ways to connect with nature. They will confirm for you. Support you. And teach you so much by observing and admiring. No need to pick or forage!


How do you connect with the plants and elementals around you?
Would you try this?
 


 
 
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Co-Existing & Honoring Crystals and Other Beings

✨ I don’t USE crystals I befriend them. ✨
✨ I don’t USE flower essences I learn from them. ✨
✨ I don’t USE mantras I vibrate and sing them. ✨

In these times it's valuable to reframe our language with intentional meaning. This is why I’ve been sitting so much with how I take and from who. Why do I take and who is owed reparations? Whether peoples or earth. 

It’s my responsibility to always give back more than I take. Always. And IF I’m lucky, I receive so much more than I could ever possibly give, but without an expectation. 

From these relationships with my allies I access deeper ways to heal. Because my healing is in my own hands. My growth is my responsibility. My determination to shift oppressor/oppressed societal markings is a choice I make within my daily practices. 

For me this has meant giving away all sage and palo santo . These are not my or my ancestors sacred plants. 

This has meant honoring the sacred goddesses from my own culture and getting to know and relate with Her rather than picking and choosing the She that is popular and revered in cultures I cannot claim. 

This has meant deep research into the practices of my ancestors which I know will be a lifetime of re-learning. 

This means not taking plants I see in the wild unless I ask permission, and really, admiration is so much better than foraging in most cases. I can grow what I want to make for medicines in my own garden. Just because I see something doesn’t mean it’s meant for me. 

And on and on I could go. This is just the beginning. I do not USE. I honor. I listen. I pause. I learn. And I am always, always open to receive if it is to be so. 

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Symbiosis

SYMBIOSIS 🌱✨☀️🌈🌸
An interaction between two different organisms living in close physical association, typically to the advantage of both.

As I’ve become more connected to the earth I live on I’m finding so much beauty in how what I need is given to me by nature. Like, am I even deserving?! It’s the greatest love. 

I’ve had a prayer to connect more with violet and she’s literally doing incredible things to support me. Growing through cracks in the pavement, weaving in between other plants on the lawn, the places I’ve offered moon blood there she grows!

I love the idea that as living beings we are in such communication with the plants all around us whether we are conscious of it or not. ..

My heart is so open to what the plantcestors have to teach me. Wide open. What plants are calling to your heart? Are there plants you’re recognizing for the first time that you have a new interest in learning about?

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If you were a flower, who would you be?

If I wrote a book it would be called, she dreams in flowers. And I will. And right now I do. When I'm processing something the right flower medicine will come to me in my dream until I meet these flowers in real life. Sometimes the irl element isn't necessary and I'm getting comfortable with that. 

Passionflower
Hibiscus
Tiger Lily
Rose
Ohia Lehua
Hedgehog Cactus
Datura

I dream in flowers. My dreams are whispers, felt by these plants which come to give me their medicine and support me. And then like a great teacher, she will tell me her story and I’ll pay careful attention to all the beautiful details. She’s always patient with me as I re-call, re-member. 

Then I'll go into research mode until this flower consumes me. What's the deeper meaning? What's the medicine? Where can I meet her in her natural home? How can I walk, talk and act like this plant? This is my process. But it's not 'special' or unique. We can all do this when one tiny door has opened a crack in our hearts. ::

Messages of love. Of self-compassion and hope. Of belief in my innate goodness and strength. And also grounded practical support.

I am divine. The flowers tell me so. 
I am divine. My body grounds these visions of heart, of soul, and it really is practical magic. Everyday.

Open your heart like a lily.
Stand tall like a sunflower.
Be wildly sensual like a juicy red hibiscus.
Just don’t forget to be you.
The flower that you are, so unique and perfect.

If you'd like some support connecting with your plant teachers I'd be honored to create a flower essence formula for you. Learn more here.
 

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